Seven Reasons You Need a Doula
Updated: 5 days ago
Truth time: I've never had a doula before at any of my births.
Gasp. I know. I wish I could go back in time and tell my naive, independent, cheap-o self that having a doula would be the best investment I could make with any of my births.
I would tell myself that with a doula I would I would maybe have avoided being induced at 38 weeks, despite being dilated at 7 cm and 90% effaced, thus needing an epidural.
I would tell myself that with a doula for my second birth, I would have been less impatient, less willing to agree quickly to another induction and less likely to have more interventions. I'm just grateful none of them ended up in a c-section.
I would tell myself that a doula with my third birth would have been a wonderful support for my husband while I was wheeled away to the OR, leaving him standing alone with our newborn daughter in a blood splattered room.
Everyone needs a doula. It doesn't matter if you're rich or poor, single or married, young or old, epidural or none, c-section or vaginal — you need a doula.
You need a doula to squeeze your hand when there's nothing to say.
You need a doula to guide your husband in administering counter pressure.
You need a doula to tell explain all the med-speak in the delivery room when you have no idea what they're saying.
You need a doula at home to be there when the midwife is busy preparing for delivery.
You need a doula at the birth center to be a calming presence as you fall in to labor land.
You need a doula to help you advocate for the birth that you want.
You need a doula to validate your decisions and empower you.
Now, more than ever, expecting women are fighting to have their doulas by their side as they prepare to give birth. Whether it's to help you decide the best place to give birth or to support your decision whatever it is, she will be there for you.
A doula will help you realize the power has been in you all along and she is there to help you find it.
As a birth photographer, I know there are few people more valuable than a doula. I'm so glad some hospitals now are allowing them to be part of their clients' birth experiences. Now, more than ever, a woman needs all the support she can get during these scary times.
If your doula can't be with you because of this craziness going on and risk, my heart hurts for you. I know she desperately wants to be there and support you.
Support her by giving her a shout-out and extra love this week during World Doula Week. They need all the love and support from us that we can give them.